The Life You Want: A Weekend in DC with Oprah

Oprah Winfrey, one of the most impactful inspirational leaders of the modern age, is throwing an 8-city The Life You Want tour and this past weekend she hosted in Washington D.C. I have attended many empowerment conferences but this one was leaps and bounds above all others. Why?

Oprah is a powerful speaker who penetrates your soul and gets you thinking and moving. And she had 4 amazing speakers (Elizabeth Gilbert, Mark Nepo, Rob Bell and Iyanla Vanzant). But there were 2 additional touches that sealed it for me: (1) three “time outs” during the event to write in our convention notebook to answer some deep questions and to write out action items, and (2) being among 10,000+ like-minded souls which included a lot of dancing and grooving to old school R&B spun by DJ Kiss! The power of everyone coming together in a common purpose and raising the energy through the roof was intoxicating

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Since not everyone may have the opportunity to attend the convention (click here to check out the remaining cities), I want to share some pearls of wisdom from the speakers that are worth reading. Please take some time to read each of these and reflect on what it means to you. See how it resonates and whether it begins to stir something within you that you know deep down needs to change.

Oprah’s advice:

  • There is no life without a spiritual life. Any discord that you feel in your life is in direct proportion to your spiritual location.
  • When things are “off” or when you experience failure, life is pushing you in another direction. Listen to the push.
  • Life speaks in whispers. You can only hear them if you quiet yourself … everyday.
  • If you ever wonder why you are here having a human experience, it is because you were called to be here … to be here now. Don’t waste it.
  • Be present to see the ordinary moments in life as creating an extra-ordinary life.
  • Mine your own energy field, and stay out of others. Your field is where your power is; we have no power in other’s territory.

Mark Nepo’s advice:

  • Author of The Book of Awakening.
  • The longest journey you will make in life is from your head to your heart.
  • Don’t waste this rare life. Ask what you need to know. Say what you need to say. Do what you need to do. Be who you need to be.
  • We have to build our inner world (through reflection) or gravity of the outer world will crush us.
  • Wherever you are that isn’t comfortable, use it as information to launch you forward. Because when you feel misery, you are in the wrong spot and need to change direction.

Elizabeth Gilbert’s advice:

  • Author of Eat. Pray. Love.
  • Transformation is not supposed to be easy, or everyone would do it everyday.
  • Any movement can bring injury, so we do not move until we are pushed. But movement is growth.
  • At some point, we will all embark on a Quest (The Hero’s Journey) which is found within every culture, but never does the Quest involve a woman … it’s time to change that.
  • We receive a calling.
    • We embark on an adventure – there’s no going back
    • We encounter a road of trials and meet a trickster, wise elders, friends disguised as enemies, enemies disguised as friends
    • We live through a dark night of the soul
    • We call upon divine assistance to help us
    • We receive powers and talents to help us grow
    • We battle what we most fear
    • And we face the fear and win
  • When you have limitations/obligations in life that pre-empt a Quest (young children, caring for elder parents, financial restrictions), simply make a promise to do what you need to do at some point and then plan for it.

Rob Bell’s advice:

  • Author of What we talk about when we talk about God
  • We are not simply living a spiritual life, we are a spiritual life.
  • No matter what is going on, life is miraculous. Think of all that it takes, that we do not think about (such as breathing and cell regeneration) to keep us alive everyday.  That’s a miracle.
  • When you are grounded and present, everything in spiritual no matter how mundane.
  • The life you want is first embracing the life you have.
  • Unapologetically live your life, not the life that others want for you.

Iyanla Vanzant’s advice:

  • Author of a new book on Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything
  • The life you want is on the other side of painful labor. When life says push, you need to push! It’s not pretty at the time, but afterwards it’s glorious.
  • If you made it through the past, you passed so let it go.
  • If you don’t have silence, you cannot hear your life. And then you’re on your own and that’s why people feel loneliness among the chaos.
  • Your eyes adjust to the level of deficiency in your life, so you do not recognize it as a deficiency. But when you get quiet, you become aware of the deficiencies.

It is impossible for me to convey in words the power and inspiration received during this weekend with Oprah and her team. What I want to convey is that when an opportunity comes along to attend an event like Oprah’s The Life You Want or another empowerment conference, please put all excuses aside and GO! It will be an investment in yourself that never goes away.

I know that I am going through a massive shift right now and I know that no matter what happens during the labor, I always have and always will end up in a better place. Most people do not believe that, but I want to change that. So whether it’s attending an empowerment conference, reading books, or going through my past blogs where this has been a common theme … just take one step away from something that isn’t right and towards something that is. Just one step at a time is all you need and the light of your true life will begin to shine.

It’s time to turn up the volume on your life. (Psst, stay tuned for a program that I’m planning to launch in January 2015 to help you.)

About Allie Phillips:

Me Aug 2014Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.
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Finding your creative space

Do you have a space that is just for you, where you feel great, where you’re super charged to get those creative juices flowing, and could just sit and create endlessly? I hope so because it is absolutely essential for everyone to create regardless of your work, age, or situation).

We came here to this glorious human experience to create. We are creative beings by nature. When we’re not creative, we are dwindling. We should create everyday. Some of us create through writing (like this blog), through teaching, through raising children, through raising companion animals, through building things with our hands, through cooking, and so on. I often find that creative juices can be squelched when there is not a proper space to create.

Creative space

Creative spaces can come in all different forms. Mine (pictured above) is my home office, filled with crystals, sacred geometry crystal grids, vision boards, inspiring books, diffusing essential oils, a sunny window with a beautiful Dogwood tree outside, a cat (or two) in the cat perch, inspirational affirmations and books, my creative Crystal Sonic Therapy music, and even a pen with a huge neon pink daisy on top! But creative spaces can also be a garage, a garden, a kitchen, or a small corner where you have a spiritual alter or other place to sit and reflect on your creativity.

The goal is to have a place that is specifically yours! It’s a space where you feel your best and can open the sacral chakra creative center to connect with your heart, your voice and your brain to flow your ideas into being. It’s a place where you can have your creativity tools at your fingertips.

Golden SeleniteWhat are some of my favorite tools to have in my creative space? For crystals I have Golden Selenite (super high vibrational manifestation crystal in the photo above), a 12 inch Flourite tower (provides balance, eliminates chaos, increases concentration), Orange Calcite (for a creativity boost), a natural Chalcedony geode (just because it looks pretty) and Black Tourmaline surrounding my technology (to block the EMFs). I also have a work crystal grid that my Lakshmi (Goddess of Abundance) oversees that contains a natural Citrine tower, some Green Aventurine, Prehnite with Epidote, Emerald, Malachite, amplified with Clear Quartz points and anchored with Pyrite. For essential oils, I like to diffuse Young Living Clarity, Harmony and Transformation oils. Oh, and don’t forget my neon pink flower pen!

Pink flower penThe goal of having your own creative center is to make it yours; select items that make you feel good, make you smile, encourage you when you have a creative block, and make it the best cozy energetic space to do your best energetic work! I have written 2 books, a half dozen book chapters, created a few dozen classes, written a few hundred blogs and newsletters, and conversed with many of you on social media from my creative space. It’s why I often find myself still working each evening, even after a 12 hour+ day. It just feels good to sit there and create. Like right now.

I would love to hear from you about the creative space you have (or want to have). And feel free to send me a photo!

About Allie Phillips:

Me Aug 2014Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.
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Forgiveness heals everything

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Being human, it is natural that we will experience situations that are hurtful and cause resentment. I do not think that we can be humans without going through life unscathed. The key to moving beyond those moments is to forgive. Yet forgiveness is like finding the Holy Grail … sought after but not found.

Here’s a quick test:

  • Who or what do I need to forgive (be sure to include yourself)?
  • On a scale of 1 to 10 (with 1 being lowest), rate the resentment you feel towards the person or situation.

If you scored anything higher than a 4, it’s time to work on forgiveness. Why? Because when you are harboring unforgiveness, that’s negative energy that can create an energy block in your body. An energy block is like a clogged drain pipe and anything below that clog is not getting life-sustaining energy. Basically, those areas are being starved and you can end up with physical or emotional issues. Unforgiveness also blocks manifesting positive things that you desire.

My favorite statement about unforgiveness is: When you do not forgive, it is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It’s so true! You may be consumed with resentment and clinging to a comment or situation that happened years ago and the other person is going on merrily with their life completely unaware that you are still festering. So who is really suffering? (Hint: The answer would be “you, the one drinking the poison.”)

Forgiveness is not something that you “do”, it is something that you feel. Saying “I forgive you” does not make it true. I go into great detail in one of my online classes about how to process unforgiveness; I dedicate an entire class to the topic because it is challenging to manifest what you want when you’re consumed with unforgiveness. The easiest way to describe getting to forgiveness is that when you can think of the person or situation and feel neutral, you have forgiven. There is no emotional connection. Anything other than neutrality means that you have some forgiveness to work out.

In 2012 I had a chance to hear Carolyn Myss speak and she talked about old energy as feeling the need to punish someone when something doesn’t go our way. Whereas the new energy is about forgiveness. Forgiveness is stopping ourselves from retaliating against a wrong, and recognizing that what happened brought out the worst in ourselves. Forgiveness is about choosing to stop the suffering and to forgive. When we forgive, we stop an energy cycle of pain; we stop the fear of the ego.

So how do you do it? Forgiveness is about seeing the other person or the situation in the best light that you can, release the person or situation, wish them well (even if they hurt you greatly because wishing them well may prevent someone else from being harmed) and then set them free. It’s a great visualization exercise to go through and you will feel better afterwards. I tell my students that when they do this, they are disconnecting an energy cord that has kept them connected to the person or situation. So when you release the cord, do not be surprised if the person makes an attempt to contact you, or a new situation develops exactly like the one you just released. If either of those happen, do not respond otherwise you will re-establish the connection.

What are some practical tools to support you while you are forgiving? These are my favs:

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  • Crystals = a few of my favorites include Ajoite (photo), Apache Tear, Celestite, Cobalto Calcite, Danburite, Diopside, Rose Quartz, Sugilite. Obsidian Arrowheads are great for cord cutting but only do this only with a trained crystal healer.
  • Essential Oils = Young Living Forgiveness and Release oils.
  • Tapping = this is a great site to get you started

Forgiveness

I use all 3 of these tools when I am processing forgiveness because they may a powerful combination. Such as tapping with essential oils on my fingertips, or meditating with crystals while I diffuse the essential oils.

A word of advice … do not beat yourself up if you have loads of things to forgive. This is a big issue for most people, yet most people do not realize it’s an issue. So you’re already ahead of game simply by reading this. But then do something about it so that unforgiveness doestn’t away at your physical health, emotional health and life anymore. Make a decision to release it and then do it! You will then know that you have truly forgiven when you feel lighter, healthier and neutral.

If you have a technique that has worked for you, please post a comment and share!
About Allie Phillips:

Me Aug 2014Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.
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