If you love animals, you have likely suffered the loss of one or more. When we lose a companion animal, we can grieve as much (if not more) than when we lose a person.
I have blogged about the passing of my kitties Sammy and Oscar (in 2012) and Jacob (in 2017). For me, it’s part of the healing process and I always find something heart-opening during the grieving process because pets really do teach us a lot.
With Sammy, I wrote about what pets teach us because if you listen to your pet, you will learn amazing things.
With Oscar, I wrote about some interesting number similarities between Oscar and Sammy’s passings and being tuned in to those signs.
With Jacob, I wrote about different energy methods to help deal with the sudden loss of a loved one and processing grief.
My sweet Lucy passed away on May 3rd at the age of 19 years and 9 months. I had her in my life for 19 years and 2 months which is an incredible long life we had together. My heart is broken into countless little pieces because she was truly my best friend and was with me through some very terrible times and very happy times. While people have let me down, Lucy never did. She was a very vocal Bombay (black Siamese) and could actually verbalize about 20 words including Uh oh or Oh no (when she saw her brother Rudy), I don’t know (when I asked her a question and she wanted me to figure it out) and should could even say my name. Seriously!!!!
Lucy was MY cat … she didn’t need anyone else and would have been content as an only cat (although she had 4 brothers in her lifetime). One of my fondest memories of Lucy was taking Lucy on a Cat-cation in August 2016 to celebrate her 18th birthday and my birthday. We went to a friend’s home on the shore of Lake Huron in Cheboygan, Michigan. Although Lucy was not fond of the 3+ hour car ride, she loved spending time on the beach (the world’s largest litter box for her) and it being just the two of us for a few days.
Lucy was also truly the spokes cat for Manifested Harmony because she let me test out all of the wonderful healing modalities I have learned over the years with her. She taught me how to properly offer Energy Healing and crystals to cats (click on the links to see videos of Lucy demonstrating). Cats are not little people so there is a method of offering energy healing to our pets and Lucy taught me that.
And then Lucy helped me understand that safe, quality, pet-friendly essential oils can provide an amazing physical and emotional benefits. Many people are concerned about using essential oils with cats because of a cat’s difficulty in eliminating essential oils through the liver. Read this blog if you’re still concerned. For 5 years, Lucy was surrounded by Young Living essential oils. I diffused essential oils everyday and she loved them. And for 4 years she drank an essential oil-infused drink called Ningxia Red in her food. Six days before she passed her lab work showed that her liver was in good condition for a 19+ year old cat … it was her kidneys that had been declining over the past 3 years that finally took her.
With Lucy, she was very clear in her messages to me when she was alive. When she did not want me to work past 8pm, she would sit on my laptop to prevent me from typing. When I did too many video classes in a row, she would sit in my lap to keep me balanced and to let me know when it was time to stop. When it was time to put down a book, she sat on me and stared at me. She was a great teacher.
Since her passing, I have received some beautiful signs from Lucy. Lucy is guiding me to write about the signs that you may receive from your pets when they are ready to pass and after they have passed. These are the signs that Lucy gave to me before she passed:
- Lucy had no interest in food for 7 days and did not eat at all for 3 days. When your pet stops eating, they are letting you know that they are ready … they are just waiting for you to be ready and to say it’s okay for them to pass.
- Lucy was walking around the house (even the morning before passing) as if to take in everything and say goodbye.
- When I looked in her eyes, I could tell that she was starting to leave. The life, spark and energy that had always been in her eyes was dwindling and mostly gone.
- Many pets like to go into hiding when they are ready to pass. Lucy walked downstairs in the middle of her last night and I found her sitting on a dining room chair cloaked by the table cloth.
- And because our pets cannot verbalize that they are ready to go, we need to put down the busyness in our life and really focus on them because the signs will be obvious. Then you will feel at peace when it’s time to let them go.
In the 2 hours after Lucy passed, these are the signs that she sent to me:
- I felt her kiss my nose. Every day should would give me nose smears, which is how she picked me when I found her at the animal control shelter in 1999 in a room full of black cats.
- When I was driving her to the crematorium, these songs came on the radio: You’ll never find another love like mine (Lou Rawls) and Hey Nineteen (Steeley Dan). I laughed when Hey Nineteen played because Lucy was 19 at her passing. Lucy was anything but subtle.
- I have table chimes on my dining room buffet table and all of my angel kitties will move the chimes whenever I talk to them. Seriously, people who have been at my house have seen it!!! As soon as I walked into my house after leaving her at the crematorium, the chimes belled.
And in the days since then, I have seen a lot of feathers …. every where (that’s a sign from the angels)! Many friends who are gifted communicators have connected with Lucy and shared information with me that gives me comfort that she is with loved ones, in a good place, and happy. I have also seen her out of the corner of my eye and have heard her meow. Am I losing my mind, no. If we take the time to connect, we can sense those who have passed. And that sensing can give great comfort during grief.
When we lose a loved one (whether human or pet), it can suck the energy out of us. Rudy (her cat brother) and I are definitely not the high energy beings that we were before Lucy passed. But with a lot of support from family and friends, and using a daily protocol from the Feelings Kit, we are regaining our energy and getting back to our new normal. And I’m learning that it’s good to be happy, even though I miss Lucy greatly, because one thing that she continuously taught me was to be happy … no matter what is going on.
So when you lose a pet, be sure to give yourself the time and space to properly grieve and to notice the signs that your pet is not far … they are just in different form. And take comfort in the time that you had with your pet, although we know it is always too little.
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