Processing the Energy of Grief and Loss

Sadly, this topic close to my heart right now.

My sweet Jacob suddenly and unexpectedly passed away on April 3rd. He was fine a few days earlier, then acted a little sluggish and wasn’t eating as much for a day, and the next thing I know we are in the ICU at the Michigan State University Veterinary School. He was crashing and all I was told was that it was a very fast moving cancer, but they didn’t know what the cancer was. Two weeks earlier, he had full lab work-ups done and there were no problems. So after a lot of questions, little answers, and veterinarians who were baffled by what caused the sudden crash, it was clear that Jacob was passing before my eyes so I held him as we let him go.

Jacob is not the only pet who passed away in the past 3 months. An unusually large number of pets and people have passed on (many unexpectedly) …. and the number is well over 30 just for who I know. I’m searching to find the meaning in all of it. I believe that everyone decides at the soul level when it’s their time to pass on. But why so many in the past 3 months? It’s like they are going in clusters. Do they feel they will be of more service to us in spirit? Do they know something we humans don’t know? It has prompted a lot of discussions but little answers.

What I’ve done in the past month to process the grief, cope with the loss and missing the pitter patter of Jacob’s feet, and to keep my multi-businesses afloat, I have turned to a couple of tools to help me process grief.

The first thing I did was reach for my essential oils. The oils that have truly helped me through this difficult time have been Acceptance (to accept what has happened), Frankincense (which comes in the starter kit and it works on the lung meridian where we store the energy of grief), Gratitude (to be grateful for the time that we had with our loved one) and Joy (because our loved one would want us moving forward in joy and happiness). I was in shock, angry and then numb for about 3 weeks. I used my oily religiously and then it all lifted. By diffusing these oils, I know they have also helped my cat Rudy who deeply loved Jacob.

My favorite ways to utilize the oils for emotional help is to smell them. The oils go into the limbic region of the brain where we store emotions. So diffusing the oils or placing the oils in your hand and inhaling are two powerful techniques to process the energy of difficult emotions.

Next, I placed a ginormous Rose Quartz and Selenite on my bedroom nightstand so that the loving and soothing energy of those crystals would surround me at night.

And then I simply kept talking to Jacob. Just because a person or pet has passed on does not mean that their spirit is not nearby. In the past 6 weeks there have been so many Jacob “sightings” based on Rudy’s reactions. Rudy will start to spontaneously play in a location where he and Jacob would rumble. Rudy will jump up and start to chase something that I cannot see. And Rudy will stare down a hallway as if Jacob is there. I also “see” Jacob out of the corner of my eye. So keep talking to your loved one because they have not left your side.

And if you’re still struggling with overwhelming grief and feel that you cannot move on, please talk with a professional and combine that therapy with an energy healing session. Together, it can be a powerful combination of transformation.

I am sharing this because we all have lost someone and if we do not process the grief, it can cause a host of emotional, mental and physical problems (because grief stores in the lungs). Essential oils, crystals and continued connection to your loved one can help you through it. Even if you have grief from long ago, give these techniques a try.

So while we grapple with the why, the what if’s, and retracing steps to try to identify signs or ways that a different road could have been taken, at some point we all have to grieve and release it. So I wanted to share my story that even in the midst of grief, there is hope and happiness.


Jacob and Rudy, very bonded brothers and best friends

I am so grateful and happy that I had my floppy-eared blue-eyed Jacob in my life, even just for less than 5 years. Everyone who came to my homes in Virginia and Michigan met him because he was a big part of every energy healing and essential oil class. I now can look at his photos and smile and I truly feel his presence still in our home.

About Allie Phillips:

Me and LucyAllie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Fairy Reiki Master, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), Certified Fairyologist, Young Living essential oil Silver Leader educator, award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She combines methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. And she particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.
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Power of the Purr

PurrrrThis blog is dedicated to my cat peeps! Did you know that a cat’s purr is healing? Yes, you heard me …. a cat’s purr is healing!

If you have ever enjoyed the company of a feline, you have invariably been lured into a smile simply by the sound of their purr. That little rumbling motor that seems to consume a cat’s entire body and often makes them vibrate with happiness. This purr has healing ability!!! (Don’t stop reading because I’m going to get a little sciencey on you!)

Most people can agree that sound is very healing, right? Many of us listen to music to help us relax; we dance and exercise to music; music helps you to “get in the mood” (whatever mood you want to get into … giggle); we are mesmerized by the sound of waves rippling to shore, wind howling through the trees, and fire crackling. Even the little water fountain on my desk helps me to stay balanced throughout the day.

Purr quoteIn the book Vibrational Healing through the Chakras, Joy Gardner tells us that our bodies and emotions have a vibrational energy and are a source of electrical energy. All forms of matter (atomic and subatomic particles) vibrate; German physicist Max Planck proved this. This is what science has told us about vibration and frequency:

  • The heart has the frequency of 225 Hz
  • Brain waves vibrate at a frequency up to 200 Hz
    • Beta is waking consciousness and has a frequency of 15-40 Hz
    • Alpha is a relaxed state and has a frequency of 9-14 Hz
    • Theta is deep meditation, hypnosis, visualization and deep healing and has a frequency of 5-8 Hz
    • Delta is REM sleep with a frequency of .5 – 4 Hz
    • Epsilon is right-left hemisphere syncing and accessing great inspiration and has a frequency below .5 Hz
    • Gamma involves all senses converging for higher awareness at a frequency of 40-100 Hz (this involves shamanic/mystical experiences)
    • Lambda is the state of ecstasy and is up to 200 Hz
  • The Earth vibrates at 7.83 Hz. This is because lightening can circle the circumference of the Earth 7.83 times in one second, thus this is the charge for the Earth. There are 1000 lightening storms every second to keep this rate consistent. When our body can vibrate at that rate, we experience healing. Healers and mystics typically have a frequency of 7.8 Hz.

We know that light, sound, smell, plants, foods, essential oils can all be measured in frequencies. Our skin, sense of smell and taste are sensitive to frequencies of vibration. And when we have physical and emotional ailments, our body vibrates at a lower rate. Good stuff, eh?

Animal sounds have a frequency. Whale and elephant sounds resonate at a frequency of 15-35 Hz (which can stimulate alpha brain activity). Dolphins have a frequency of 3-500 Hz (the clicking sound) and 2000-80000 HZ (for their whistles). And (drum roll please) …. a cat’s purr has a frequency of 25-150 Hz.

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A cat’s purr is within the ideal range for improving bone density and to promote overall healing and wellness. This range is also within the Gamma and Lambda frequencies. Maybe this is why cat’s often have a look of ecstasy on their face!

Cat’s purr not only when they are happy and well, but when they are ill and in pain. They purr when ill because the frequency of the purr helps them to feel better. So now imagine you are feeling under the weather, depressed, lonely, anxious, or struggling with a serious illness. One of the best healing methods (other than laughter) is to be near a cat!! This is why when you are not well, your cat will gravitate to you and be near you. They are natural healers and they know that their mere presence (or should I say, purrsence) will help you! I have experienced this on countless occasions where my cats lay on my bed, encircling me, when I do not feel well. That is the ultimate house call!

Let me heal youSo the next time you do not feel well (physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually), grab your cat and give them a big smooch and a hug (with their purrmission, of course). If you do not have a cat, find a friend or family member with a cat and hang out with them. Or even go to your local animal shelter to simply spend time with some homeless cats. You will feel better, and so will they!

If you want to really make your cat purr, join me for Crystal Healing for Animals on September 8th. Registration closes on September 1st (don’t miss it)!!!

I’m collecting stories of how animals help to heal us. So if you have a good story that you can share (and a photo of you with the animals), please email me!

Enjoy some purring this week!

Me & Rudy

About Allie:

Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.

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