How many times have you said “(insert name) drives me crazy”, “(insert name) makes me so mad”, “I cringe when I see (insert name) walking towards me”, “(insert name) brings out the worst in me” and the list goes on.
We’ve all been there, we’ve all said those words, and we’ve all encountered people who are very difficult to deal with. They make us upset, angry, stressed out, afraid, negative and basically turn our otherwise happy disposition into a cesspool of icky emotions. There will always be people who try to bring out the worst in us (sorry, sweet pea). They go through life bitter, angry, oozing negativity, spreading fear and gossip with the unconscious (or sometimes conscious) goal of bringing the masses down to their level. Misery loves company is their life mission.
I have learned over the years that these people come to us to teach us lessons. You may have a life lesson to learn patience, or to be calm and centered during difficulty, or to be compassionate no matter what energy is being hurled at you. So to help you learn your lesson, these people keep popping up so that you can practice and master your lesson. These people also come to us to mirror what may be a part of our dark side that we have yet to acknowledge. What we complain about the most is often something deep within us that we dislike. So if someone complains about co-workers being lazy, they may struggle internally with their lazy nature.
So if you are a Law of Attraction deliberate creator working everyday to keep your energy vibration high so that you manifest your best life, how do you accomplish that around these people?
- Do your best to avoid labeling these people. Notice I call them these people rather than continuing to call them bitter-anger-fear mongering-nasty-slim filled-creatures? (That made me giggle typing that). The Law of Attraction teaches us to be aware of labeling things. Instead of labeling something as good or bad, it really just is. We view our world through a lense of our beliefs and experiences. So while one person may view one of these people as hateful, another may view them as a broken spirit needing compassion. So work on dropping the labels.
- Work everyday to keep your vibration high. You can do this by practicing gratitude. When you wake in the morning, list what you are grateful for. Do the same as you travel to work, enter the workplace, encounter people, eat your meals, travel home and go to bed. Gratitude Gratitude Gratitude should be your Attitude! Because when you keep your vibration high, it takes a lot more energy and time for these people to drag you down.
- Limit your exposure to things that do not make you feel good. You are bombarded everyday by things that bring you down. News reports of war, murder and mayhem impact your vibration, as does stres, illness, and your own negative self-talk. As you encounter these people, set an intention that your encounter will be pleasant and brief. Then send out that vibration. Shower them with kindness and compassion. It’s really difficult for these people to barage you with negativity when you are showering them with kindness. Your vibration will catch them off guard and before they realize it, your encounter has ended and you have actually left them with a touch of positivity.
- Be responsible for your reactions. These people can only bring you down if you let them. So be conscious throughout your day about how you’re feeling. If you notice yourself slipping down the slide of despair, put the brakes on and do something that brings you joy. For me, interacting with crystals and animals (which are all pure positive vibrations) bring me back up to who I truly am.
Give these ideas a try and let me know how they work for you. If you’re interested in learning how to fully work the Law of Attraction into your life and deliberately create your reality, contact me for a 20-minute complimentary Manifesting Me phone/Skype consultation!
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