Where’s my blanket fort? Handling overwhelm with grace

When I say blanket fort, what do you think of? I think back to the days of my childhood where I spent hours erecting the perfect blanket fort, with chairs lined up perfectly to hold the appropriately matching colored blankets, and the tranquil interior filled with blankets, fluffy pillows, my Nancy Drew books, Etch-a-Sketch, graham crackers, the family cat and everyone with cooties was banned.

Doesn’t that sound lovely … especially during times of feeling overwhelmed??

I often get myself into situations where I feel overwhelmed. It’s totally my doing because I tend to take on way too much (all for the greater good of helping people and pets as I rationalize my 12+ hour work days, often 7 days a week). So here’s what I’ve done lately that made me want to retreat to my childhood fort:

  • I made a huge life move from 11 years in Virginia back home to Michigan (with all of the stress of buying a house, selling a house, packing, moving, getting unpacked and set up, while keeping the kitties calm);
  • Two days after the move I felt strongly that I needed to sign up for Marie Forleo’s intensive B-School before registration closed, so I dove in to her 8-week course (which I am loving, but the timing was a bit overwhelming);
  • Three weeks after the move I signed up for a 6-week Chemistry of Essential Oils class (which I also love);
  • I’ve attended two in-person essential oil trainings (with more on the horizon) which were amazing;
  • I’ve held 5 workshops and webinars;
  • I’ve maintained my animal protection, including travel, work while balancing the set up of Manifested Harmony;
  • I have several new classes that I really want to develop;
  • I’m enjoying reconnecting with my Michigan tribe and getting back into ballroom dancing;
  • And the list goes on and on.

While there is some work that I’m not entirely enamored with these days, everything else I absolutely adore and love which is why I keep piling it on! I am ravenous when it comes to learning and sharing what I’ve learned. But two weeks ago, I hit the blanket fort wall. I looked at my chalk wall board in my office and thought holy crap, how am I going to get through all of this?

Have you been there? I think you have. And what is our natural instinct? We start to shut down and our productivity comes to a grinding halt which makes us feel even worse. And then when we’re not checking off our to-do list because we’re overwhelmed, we then feel even more overwhelmed. Right? #viciouscycle

So what did I do? I crafted my adult version of the blanket fort which contains sparkly fairy lights, my survival kit of Young Living Essential Oils (high frequency oils like Neroli, Rose, Sacred Mountain, Stress Away), crystals (my favorite Brandberg, some Prehnite, and lots of grounding crystals like Black Tourmaline), an inspiring book, my 3 cats weaving in and out, and wine (I put oils in the wine, so that makes it healthy, right?)! And when I come out for a small break, I only watch The Hallmark Channel and The Love Boat which I recently found on Pop TV! Squuuuueeee!!!!!! Why those shows? They are all heart-felt shows/movies that leave you feeling good. I’ve also taken to building fairy houses (check out my creation below)! Taking some ME time – to do nothing that will save the world – is just what I need to re-energize.

Fairy houseHere’s the thing about getting overwhelmed: acknowledge it, let yourself have some downtime, do things that bring you joy, but don’t wallow too long otherwise it’s difficult to crawl back into productivity. Then just add one thing to your list for the day and overhwleovermake sure you get that done. Then the next day, add one more task. By the end of the week you’ve checked off 7 tasks and 30 by the end of the month! And most of all, give yourself permission to be gentle on yourself. Being gentle does not mean being lazy and shirking responsibilities; it means giving yourself time each day to just do something nurturing and kind for yourself.

Let’s chat about this … post me a comment of the 3 things that you do to help you cope with overwhelm and we can all learn better ways to take care of ourselves!

About Allie Phillips:

Me Aug 2014Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.
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Have a Happy Healthy Holiday Pet

Jacob xmasDid you know that the holiday season can be one of the most stressful time in your companion animal’s life? While we are busy preparing for, stressing over, and celebrating the season, our pet may take on unnecessary stress or become physically ill. But there are some simple things that you can do to have a Happy Healthy Holiday Pet!

Whenever someone talks to me about a physical or behavioral issue their pet is having, I share with them how our companion animals take on our stress (and even medical issues). They are energetically sensitive. I saw this first hand years ago when I would come home from work, fully stressed out, and my cat Sammy would promptly vomit on the floor. BLAH! He was taking in and expelling my stress. Once I realized this and shook off my stress before coming home, he stopped the welcome-home-vomitting! What I do is an energy sweeping technique where you brush your hands a few inches above your body and sweep the energy off. It really does work! And be cautious to keep your stress underhand so that your pet does not take it on.

Lucy xmasIt’s important to keep a consistent schedule with your pet (playtime, cuddle time, going for a walk, etc.). Our schedules can become over burdened during the holidays and that is when our beloved pet may receive less attention from us. As I write this, my cat Lucy is watching me also create a shopping list for two holiday parties I am hosting at my house. I know that she’s shaking her head and wondering how I will get it all done! When we change our schedule with our pets, they do not understand why and may begin to have behavioral issues. So it is important to be consistent with them. Spending time with your pet will also help to reduce your stress. At least that’s what Lucy tells me.

Rudy xmasIf you have a new kitten or puppy, I would highly recommend slowly rolling out your holiday decorations. My cat Rudy (who is one year old) is celebrating his first Christmas in the Phillips home. Rudy has a kitten tendency to eat everything in site (including plastic bags, paper towels, etc.). To make sure that my artificial Christmas tree would be safe, I rolled it out in phases. First I put up the tree with nothing on it. Rudy chewed on it a few times and I stopped him. The next day I added lights and watched Rudy to make sure that he would not chew the wires. Then I added soft ornaments (lest he decide to smack one flying across the room). As you can see in the photo, he has perched himself in the tree (more than once). It can be overwhelming for our small furry friends to suddenly pull out all of our holiday decorations at once. To them, it may be like an amusement park of new play things. Enjoy, but be cautious.

Be careful about bringing in decorations that are poisonous to pets. Check this webpage from the ASPCA on plants and foods that are dangerous. The last thing that you want is for your pet to become sick and for your busy schedule to fit in an emergency room visit. Make sure that your home is holiday safe for your pets.

I’ve created a helpful tip sheet listing 10 things that you can do to keep your pet happy and healthy this holiday season (and throughout the year). So click here, fill out your name and email (I will never ever share it) and you will be taken to a page where you can download it (and loads of other great stuff). When you can follow these ten tips, your pet will be healthy and happy through the holidays, and that will help you to relax.

All my best,

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Walking Greer (Scottish Terrier) in the Alexandria Scottish Christmas Walk Parade

 

 

About Allie:

Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.

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The Mind-Body Connection

I love it when “modern” medicine catches up with what Eastern philosophies have known for thousands of years … the mind impacts our physical body. Over the weekend a magazine caught my eye at Whole Foods. It’s called What Doctor’s Don’t Tell You. For the past 8 years, I have switched to all holistic/naturopathic doctors (as well as energy healing) and have learned so much about what those doctor’s believe about how to keep the body healthy.

In the November issue there is an article called “Living the Dream” by Dr. Lissa Rankin. That caught my eye because I have a wall hanging at my front door that says the same thing. The article was amazing. Click here to download a full copy.

Living the DreamThe article addressed how our bodies are under chronic stress due to not living a life that brings joy and fulfillment. It compared people who eat healthy, exercise, avoid addictions and work with doctor’s to optimize their health to people who eat junk food, do not exercise, yet are physically healthier than their “healthy” counterparts. How is that? The difference was in how they felt about their life. People who are stressed about their job, are miserable/unfulfilled in their relationships, lonely, scared about their future and finances, and/or depressed will have overall lower physical health. When the body is stressed, it cannot relax. And only a relaxed body can repair itself.

Living the life that you want is as important as how you care for your physical body. So I would like you to take a few minutes to write down your answers to these questions:

  • Is anything keeping you from being authentically you? If so, what is holding you back.
  • What is missing from your life?
  • If you were granted one wish to change anything in your life, what would it be?

We all have some aspect of our life that we would like to change. But what causes chronic stress o the body is having multiple aspects of your life that frankly make you miserable. For example, if you do not like your job, you likely spend half of your waking life doing something that makes you unhappy. Then if you come home to loneliness or a relationship that is not healthy, that’s an additional stressor. This chronic stress that puts stress on the body because you cannot get away from it. And stress on the body causes a host of physical problems.

If you are struggling with a physical issue, write down the answer to these questions:

  • What do you think is at the root of your illness?
  • What does your body need in order to heal?

When you make choices to reduce your stress and follow a dream, you fill your body with relaxation hormones rather than stress-inducing hormones. Our bodies are built to handle occasional situations of stress, not the chronic stress that we tolerate everyday. Chronic stressors such as work/financial stress, loneliness, difficult relationships, or depression cause our brain to believe that we are under attack. So it physically responds causing stress on the nervous system and your organs. Basically, we age faster when we’re under chronic stress and unhealthy cells develop.

It is so important that you take steps to live a happy life. You were not put on this planet to be unhappy. You have the ability to create the life that you want, one step at a time. One simple step is to engage in quiet time and relaxing breathing techniques every day (no exceptions). You have to give yourself downtime (in addition to a good nights sleep). Another option is to join me January 5, 2014 for 5 consecutive Saturdays for my You are your Thoughts: Conscious Living through the Law of Attraction webinar. It’s a good investment in your physical and emotional wellbeing (or add it to your holiday gift wish list)! And please take a few minutes to read the article. I hope it inspires you to be your best you!

Blessings from the best of me, to the best of you!

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About Allie:

Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.

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Have a gratitude shift!

Crystal gratitude 1What does gratitude mean to you? Do you ever ponder what you are grateful for, or do your days pass by without giving it a thought? For most people, life is so hectic, filled with to-do lists, taking care of others, and getting from one place to another, that they do not take a moment to revel in gratitude.

Gratitude is one key step to consciously working the Law of Attraction into your life. When you can list what you are grateful for, even just 5 things, you shift your vibration and your energy to a positive level. That shift can bring about positive changes and help you draw things into your life that you desire.

Consciously working gratitude throughout your day is essential to living a harmonic life. When you are stressed, struggling to meet a deadline, encountering difficult people, working a job that you dislike, sitting in traffic, or bombarded by the chaos in life, that is precisely when you should shift your gratitude.

For even just one minute, sit wherever you are in silence (turn off the radio, TV, computer and any distractions), close your eyes if you can (unless you are driving!), and mentally reflect on what you are grateful for. Even if you feel like your life is falling apart, there are always things that you can be grateful for.

Be grateful for knowing that you need to shift your gratitude; be grateful for the breaths you are taking for that means that you are still alive and able to take control of your life; be grateful for anyone in your life that is supportive and loving (especially pets); be grateful for the sunshine, a fresh breeze, birds that sing to you in the morning, and that frisky squirrel that is determined to get into your backyard bird feeder.

If you take the time to reflect, you will surprise yourself at how much you have to be grateful for, regardless of what realities may plague your life. Whenever you feel on the brink of a stressed-induced breakdown, shift your gratitude and notice how you can immediately shift your energy to a positive path. Because once you can step onto a positive path, your are one step closer to manifesting what your heart desires.

So today, take at least one gratitude time out. And do the same tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day …

Happy Grati-Tuesday!

About Allie:

Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.

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