Are we programmed to expect failure?

i only see the good and loveWhen I talk to people about the Law of Attraction, I explain how our beliefs can block us from manifesting what we desire and that these beliefs can block our positive thinking. These beliefs are engrained in us before the age of six. Most often we are unaware of what these beliefs are, but they determine how we go about our life because they work in our subconscious (which governs 95% of our thoughts and actions). They also program us what we expect out of life.

Every now and then I will spend a day where I do not work or even get on the computer. I will often veg out with some of my favorite movies and I love romantic comedies. And it doesn’t matter how many times I’ve seen Under the Tuscan Sun, The Proposal, or Leap Year; I love the message of perseverance and hope.

Last month, I saw the new movie About Time with Rachel McAdams and Dromhnall Gleeson (Bill Weasley from the Harry Potter movies). As I watched the movie, I continued to brace myself for a tragedy in their romantic relationship. When the movie ended and there was no tragedy in their relationship, I was relieved. Then I realized that I had spent most of the movie expecting an argument, breakup or other tragedy (and gorging on a lot of buttered popcorn). With all of the romantic comedies I have seen, I have been programmed to expect a blow out in the key romantic relationship. I never realized that until I saw About Time.

Now imagine how many false beliefs are engrained in your subconscious? Our beliefs control our response to events and control how we view the world. Our beliefs affect our energy vibration and your life right now is as a result of your belief system. Some common false beliefs are:

  • I have to work hard to make a living
  • Money is hard to get
  • Relationships are difficult
  • I’m not good enough
  • Prepare for the worst, but expect the best
  • Life is a struggle
  • And all of those little voices running through your head.

Our beliefs are programmed by our family, schools, religious institutions, friends, society, and the media. And while they have good intentions, we are raised to expect failure and to prepare for the worst. We are born with love and raised with fear. These lenses of fear and failure taint our view of life. When we expect failure or something to be fearful of, we will find it. That will be the life that we live.

Now imagine reprogramming your beliefs to live with hope, expectancy, and love? What do you think you will find each day? You’ll find more happiness in everything you do and see.

When you can dig deep and unearth your core beliefs, you may realize that there is no factual support for the belief. So how do you identify your core beliefs? Just simply look around and listen to the words that you use everyday. That’s a good start. You can also meditate to hear what your inner voice tells you. You can also look at your reactions to stressful situations. Do you react with fear or with hope?

While your core beliefs may be controlling your life right now, once you consciously become aware of those beliefs and work to change them, they will lose their control. That is when you notice that you look at the world differently. And just maybe you will watch a romantic comedy without the expectation for the key relationship to endure a tragedy.

Slide1To learn more about beliefs and how to deprogram them, check out my 5-week online class You are Your Thoughts: Conscious manifesting with the Law of AttractionClass starts January 5th and it is a great way to kick off 2014 to manifest what you truly want in life.


All my best,

Allie w rutilate quartz



About Allie:

Allie is a unique combination of self-empowerment coach (Certified Law of Attraction Counselor and Life Coach), energy therapist (Usui Reiki Master-Teacher, Integrated Energy Therapy Master-Instructor, and Advanced Crystal Master), award-winning book author, attorney and nationally-recognized animal advocate. Whether it’s wanting more freedom, creativity, loving relationships, financial security, wellbeing, relaxation, or adjusting to the energy of our new world … she looks at each person and animal holistically and creates a well-being plan. She holistically combines these methods to help people gain control of their lives and to help animals live with comfort in our hectic world. It worked for her and will work for you!  She particularly loves helping our animal companions because for those of us who have them grace our worlds, they are our soul mates.

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