Over the Memorial Day weekend, I visited my family in Michigan and had a chance to connect with someone dear to me that I had not seen for 10 years. I moved from Michigan to Virginia almost 10 years ago and it was a difficult move for me; yet looking back I know why it was necessary. I am grateful that I am able to travel home about 3 times a year. With each trip, I like to visit places and see people that were a part of my daily life back then. But every now and then I still find myself wishing to move back home.

It is wonderful to remember good times and learn from difficult times. Many reflect on when life was easier and sweeter. It’s healthy to visit the past so that you can reflect on where you come from, where you’ve been, and use those memories to plot your path. But living in the past will actually stop you enjoying life.

But what about those who live in the past and long for days gone by? I have been there and it’s not living. When we spend most of our thoughts and emotions on things that happened in the past, we are not living in the present and we cannot plan for the future. Do any of these ring true?

• You are focused on reconnecting with friends and ex’s from your past;
• You surf the internet to find people from your past (whether you want to connect with them or not);
• When you connect with people from your past, your conversation primarily focuses on the past and not on the present or future;
• You do not want to part with any objects from your past;
• You have not been able to forgive people, thus keeping you connected to those past hurtful events;
• You struggle to live in the present and to appreciate all that is around you right now;
• You cannot focus on charting your path for the future.

If you relate to this list, do not feel bad. Just recognize that when you are so focused on the past, you are not living today and it will be difficult for you to see the miracles and gifts that are offered to you each day. It’s like driving a car: If you are focused just on the present you are looking through the floorboards; it you are focused just on the future you are focused 20 feet ahead of you; and if you are focused just on the past, you are looking in the review mirror. We do not drive using just one of these methods, right? You can get into a dangerous situation if you are solely focusing on one view. We look all around us for the best and safest view.

According to the Law of Attraction, your past is a world that does not exist anymore. That energy is gone. You can cherish the memories, but you cannot live them because that energy does not exist today.

Finding a balance between living the past, present and future is healthy.  This is my personal equation that I live by: 10% past/memories; 55% present and 45% future. I believe that it is important to put most of your energy on living each day to its fullest, otherwise life will pass you by if you are looking too far ahead or behind. You will miss the messages, signals and miracles that help you plot a beautiful future. But at the same point you need to set intentions and goals for the future, otherwise your life will collapse around you without direction. And bring the sweet memories and bitter lessons from the past to help you be your best. Now that is a recipe for a sweet life.

If you are struggling with living a balanced life, my holistic approach of Law of Attraction coaching and energy techniques will help you live your best life.

All my best,

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